What should we desire?
1 Corinthians 14:1
Desire to find happiness in accomplishments- examples:
1 Kings 9:1
2 Chronicles 9:12
Should we be concerned that this desire be kept under the Holy Spirit’s control too?
Drive- the force at work inside us that motivates us to do things. Let us always remember that the force at work inside us that motivates us to do things must be Christ controlled.
SELF-CONTROL OF MY TONGUE PART 2
C. Lying tongue
1. Psalm 63:11 tells us that the mouth of those who speak lies shall be stopped
2. Proverbs 19:9 tells us a false witness will be punished and a liar will perish.
3. a. Matthew 5:11 here Jesus said that we are blessed when men say all manner of evil against us falsely.
b. Example – Acts 5:1-10-Ananias and Sapphira. The lied to Peter about how much they had received for a possession they had sold. Both died immediately after lying to Peter.
4. Revelation 21:8 the result of a lying tongue is that all liars shall have their part in the lake which will burn with fire and sulfur.
D. Cursing tongue
1. Leviticus 19:12 tells us that we shall not swear by God’s name falsely or profane the name of God.
2. Colossians 3:8 admonishes us to put off all filthy communication out of our mouth.
3. James 3:10 tells us that both blessing and cursing come from the same mouth. This should not be.
4. No, the use of slang is never proper. It seems that today there are so many Christians who are careless in this area. Slang should have no place in a Christians talk. Let us, with God’s help, not be guilty of profaning our Lord or His creation.
James 1:26 “If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.” (ESV)
• An evil man is trapped by his sinful talk-a righteous man escapes trouble.
• The way of a fool seems right to him-a wise man listens to advice.
• A fool shows annoyance at once-a prudent man overlooks an insult.
• A ruthful witness gives honest testimony-a false witness tells lies.
• Reckless words pierce like a sword-the tongue of the wise brings healing.
• Truthful lips endure forever-a lying tongue lasts only a moment.
James 3:2 “For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body.” (ESV)
What are we to use our tongue for?
a. Ephesians 4:29 tells us we are to use our tongues to edify and minister grace to the hearers.
b. Ephesians 5:4 tells us we are to use our tongues for the giving of thanks.
Inner attitudes-Psalm 26:2 Here David says, “Examine me, O Lord, and prove me; try my mind and my heart.” (NKJV)
SELF-CONTROL OF MY WILL
a. Genesis 1:26-27 tells us that God created man in His own image thus endowing man with a will of his own.
b. Luke 22:42 Christ’s prayer was that not his will but the Father’s be done.
Example-Acts 24:25 This example is of a man who followed his own will is Felix as he listened to Paul but refused to yield his will to the prompting of the Holy Spirit.
c. Philippians 2:13 Our prayer regarding our will should be that we allow God to work within us, giving us the will and the power to achieve His purpose.
SELF-CONTROL OF MY BODY Part 1
My entire body:
a. Right reason for hunger-Proverbs 16:26 tells us that hunger is good because it causes us to work to satisfy it.
b. Warnings against-Proverbs 23:1-3 warns us that we should not allow our love for food to place ourselves in a position where we can be bribed. Verses 19-21a warns that gluttonous eaters will come to poverty.
c. Christ’s admonition-Luke 12:22 Christ admonishes us not to be anxious about what we shall eat. If God gives and keeps up the greater, the life, the body, will He withhold the less, food to sustain life? Of course, He will not.
d. Drunkenness-Proverbs 20:1 tells us “wine is a mocker, strong drink is a brawler, and whoever is led astray by it is not wise.” (NKJV)
e. Result-Proverbs 23:21 tells us that the result of drunkenness is poverty.
SELF-CONTROL OF MY BODY Part 2
a. Exodus 20:17 tells us that we should never covet anything that is our neighbors, rather we
should rejoice in his success and help him keep his own. This is quite different from the
world’s philosophy of trying to keep up with the Jones’.
b. Having money is not wrong, but when that becomes our main desire and the love of our
life it is wrong.
c Ecclesiastes 5:10 tells us that such a person will never be satisfied. This is vanity.
d. Proverbs 10:3 tells us that the Lord will not allow the riches of the wicked to continue forever.
e. Luke 12:16-21 Here we find the parable of the rich fool. Here we see the folly of only desiring worldly treasurers and not being concerned with spiritual treasurers. The rich man was only concerned for himself-and he was going to tear down his barns and build larger ones in which to store his crops. He had material security and was going to enjoy life. However, God intervened and required his soul that night. Weren’t there any poor and hungry?
f. Proverbs 20:4 and 13 we read about those who are lazy and have no desire to take care of themselves. It tells us that he shall begin harvest and have nothing and come to poverty.
SELF-CONTROL OF MY BODY Part 3
3. Desires for love:
a. Brother love-Psalm 133:1-3 Here it tells us that it is good and pleasant for brethren to dwell together in unity. It is compared to the precious ointment upon the head that ran down Aaron’s beard and down the skirts of his garments this oil was olive oil mixed with four of the best spices. Its rich profusion typified the abundance of the Spirit’s graces. As the dew, such as fell on Hermon, falls in fertilizing power on the mountains of Zion, so this unity is fruitful in good works.
b. Between man and woman-Song of Solomon 8:6-7 tells us that this love is strong as death, many waters cannot quench it, neither can the flood drown it. It is worth more than all the substance of a man’s house. Oh, that men and women would consider love as precious today.
c. Husband and wife-Genesis 24:6-7 Here we see the beautiful picture of Isaac taking Rebekah as his wife, and then these words, “and he loved her.” This love is described this way in Ephesians 5:28 “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” (ESV)
d. Hebrews 13:4 gives this warning, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” (ESV)
e. Lustful desires-examples: 2 Samuel 11:2-4 Here we find the story of David’s great sin. David yielded to his lustful desires for Bathsheba. However, it did not stop with this sin, but David was responsible for the death of Uriah, Bathsheba’s husband. The results of sin are often far reaching as we find in 2 Samuel 12:11-14. David’s loss of character by the discovery of his crime, tended to diminish the respect of his family, to weaken the authority of his government, and to encourage the growth of disorders throughout his kingdom.
Matthew 5:28 tells us that whosoever looks on a woman with a lustful eye, has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
f. Admonitions against-Colossians 3:5-7 admonishes us to put these lustful desires to death or the holy anger of God will fall upon us.
Proverbs 6:25 admonishes us not to lust for their beauty, or let their coyness seduce us.
g. Psalm 112:10 tells us that the desire of the wicked shall perish.
h. Galatians 5:24 tells us that if we belong to Christ we must crucify this sinful nature with its passions and desires.
i. 1. Psalm 145:1 tells that God will open his hand and satisfy our desires.
2. Romans 13:14 tells us to put on the Lord Jesus Christ.
3. Galatians 5:16-18 tells us to walk in the Spirit and to be led by the Spirit.
3. Desires for love:
a. Brother love-Psalm 133:1-3
b. Between man and woman-Song of Solomon 8:6-7
c. Husband and wife-Genesis 24:6-7 and Ephesians 5:28
d. What warning is given regarding marriage in Hebrews 13:4?
e. Lustful desires-examples: 2 Samuel 11:2-4 and Matthew 5:28
f. Admonitions against-Colossians 3:5-7 and Proverbs 6:25
g. What will happen to the desires of the wicked? Psalm 112:10
h. What should be done to these desires? Galatians 5:24
i. Who can give us victory over sinful desires and satisfy our desires?
1. Psalm 145:1
2. Romans 13:14
3. Galatians 5:16-18
a. What admonition is given here regarding the desire of coveting? Exodus 20:17
b. Review the ninth and tenth commandments and Catechism questions 98 and 99.
c. What are we told about the love and desire for money? Ecclesiastes 5:10
d. What warning is given regarding the love of money in Proverbs 10:3?
e. Example of desire for worldly treasurer- Luke 12:16-21
f. There can also be the extreme opposite-the lack of desire to do anything. What do Proverbs 20:4 and 13 say about this?
C. Lying tongue
1. Psalm 63:11
2. Proverbs 19:9
3. What should our reaction be when someone lies about us?
a. Matthew 5:11
b. Example – Acts 5:1-10
4. What is the final result of a lying tongue? Revelation 21:8
D. Cursing tongue
1. Leviticus 19:12
2. Colossians 3:8
3. James 3:10
4. Take out your Catechism and review the Second Commandment and questions 38-50. Is the use of slang ever proper?
What do we learn from a man who does not bridle his tongue in James 1:26?
Study the comparisons made in Proverbs 12:13-19.
According to James 3:2, who is perfect man?
What are we to use our tongue for?
a. Ephesians 4:29
b. Ephesians 5:4
Inner attitudes-Psalm 26:2
Genesis 6:5-tells us that man’s imaginations were only evil continually.
2 Corinthians 10:5-“We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,” (ESV) We are to cast down these imaginations.
SELF-CONTROL AND MY PRIDE AND SELFISHNESS
A. MIND: Pride and Self-Preoccupation:
1. a. Isaiah 14:13-14- we read of the fall of Lucifer because of pride and rebellion.
b. Luke 18:11-tells about the Pharisee and his attitude of pride and self-importance. When we as individuals begin to think that we are better or more important than our fellow man and sometimes even God , pride enters in.
c. Romans 12:3-Tells us “not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think.” (ESV)
2. a. Proverbs 13:10- “By pride comes nothing but strife,”
b. Obadiah 3-4-He will bring down the prideful heart.
3. a. Proverbs 11:2-disgrace follows pride.
b. Proverbs 16:18-distruction follows pride.
4. Jeremiah 13:15-the Lord tells us here not to be proud.
B. MIND: Selfish aims and ambitions:
1. Isaiah 56:11– selfishness id described as greedy dogs and shepherds that cannot understand, they all look to their own way and their own gain.
2. a. Romans 15:1- we are admonished “We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves.” (ESV)
b. 1 Corinthians 10:24– gives this admonition, “Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor.” (ESV)
c. 2 Corinthians 5:15-we are given this admonishment, “ For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died; and he died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised.” (ESV)
d. James 2:8– tells us we should love our neighbors as we love ourselves.
SELF-CONTROL AND MY EMOTIONS
A. EMOTIONS: ANGER
1. Proverbs 21:19-tells us “It is better to live in a desert land
than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.” (ESV)
2. Proverbs 29:22– tells us “A man of wrath stirs up strife,
and one given to anger causes much transgression.” (ESV)
3. Colossians 3:8-tells us to put off anger.
4. Matthew 5:22a-tells us that the result of anger is judgment.
5. a. Psalm 37:8-tells us to refrain from anger and forsake wrath.
b. Proverbs 16:32-tells us “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” (ESV)
c. Proverbs 19:11-tells us that a man’s wisdom keeps him from becoming angry.
d. Ecclesiastes 7:9-warns us not to quickly become angry, for the foolish become angry.
Anger is such an unpredictable and destructive emotion. It may lead to deep resentment, hatred, and even murder. It can also be misdirected. If we become angry with someone we should apologize to that person and confess our sin to God. We need to ask the Lord to show us what is behind our anger so that we will not fall into that pattern again.
SELF-CONTROL AND HATRED AND JEALOUSY
A. EMOTIONS: HATRED
1. Proverbs 10:12 and 18a-tell us hatred stirs up strife and the one who conceals hatred has lying lips.
2. 1 John 2:9 tells us that if you hate your brother you are still in darkness even if you claim to be in the light.
1 John 3:15 tells us that you will not have eternal life if you hate your brother because “Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.” (ESV)
B. EMOTIONS: JEALOUSY
1. a. Proverbs 6:34 tells us that jealousy makes a man furious and he will not spare when he takes revenge.
b. Song of Solomon 8:6 tells us “jealousy is fierce as the grave. It flashes as flashes of fire, the very flame of the Lord.” (ESV)
2. a. Genesis 37:4 Here we see the jealousy of Joseph’s brothers. Jacob loved Joseph more than his other sons and they became jealous and hated Joseph for this. How careful we must be in the relations in our own family that we do not become guilty of this.
b. Matthew 20:12-in this passage we find the parable of the laborers. Those who had worked only one hour received the same wage. Let us not be guilty of this but rather rejoice with them over their blessings.
c. Luke 15:38– here we find the parable of the prodigal son. The elder brother became jealous because his father made a feast when his prodigal brother returned. He had not left home, he had continued to serve his father all this time, but his father had never made a feast for him. As God’s children we should always want to serve Him and not be jealous when there is rejoicing over someone who turns to God.
C. EMOTIONS: POSITIVE
1. Mark 3:4-5 Here we see Jesus’ anger at man’s inhumanity and that they were more concerned with the law than with man’s needs.
2. John 2:14 Here it tells us of Jesus’ anger when His Father’s House was being used for the wrong purpose.
Is there a righteous anger that stirs within us when we see these things happening in our day?
1. Psalm 97:10 tells us we are to hate evil.
2. Psalm 139:21-22 here we see that David is telling us that we are not to hate the sinner but to hate the sin or evil that is done against our Lord.
1. Exodus 20:4 Here we see a picture of a jealous God.
2. Ezekiel 39:25 Here we see another picture of a jealous God.
A God who would have us serve Him only and uphold His holy name. Are we jealous for our God that our fellow man would serve no other?
3. 2 Corinthians 11:2– This is Paul’s desire for the Corinthians. Do we have this concern for our fellow man?
SELF-CONTROL AND MY TONGUE
1. a. Luke 23:51– we see Joseph of Arimathea who by his actions had not agreed with the plan nor voted for the decision to crucify Jesus.
b. Acts 5:38-39– we see Gamaliel who by his actions prevented the council from carrying out their plans to slay the apostles.
Do we realize how our actions influence other people? How very important it is that we allow our actions to be guided by the Holy Spirit.
2. 1 Samuel 2:3- the Lord weighs our actions.
Our tongue can be such a powerful weapon –for good or bad. Let us look at what Scripture tells us about the tongue:
A. SLANDER AND GOSSIPING
1. Proverbs 10:18b-19 tells us that the one who speaks slander is a fool but one who restrains his lips is wise.
2. Proverbs 11:9 tells us “With his mouth a godless man would destroy his neighbor.” (ESV)
3. Proverbs 26:22 “The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels; they go down into the inner parts of the body.” (ESV)
These verses remind us of how cruel and damaging slander and gossip can be.
4. Psalm 101:5– “Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly I will destroy.” (ESV)
B. COMPLAINING AND CRITICAL
1. Exodus 16:1-8 tells of the complaining of the Israelites against Moses and Aaron in the wilderness.
2. Psalm 39:1 “I said, ‘I will guard my ways, that I may not sin with my tongue; I will guard my mouth with a muzzle, so long as the wicked are in my presence.”
3. Acts 25:7 Here we see the Jews making many grievous complaints against Paul which they could not prove.
Let us be very careful as Christians that we do not have a complaining and critical tongue and thereby become a stumbling block for someone without Christ.
4. Exodus 16:8 Our murmurings are against the Lord.
Our emotions sometimes express themselves in different ways. Some are expressed in our actions and some in the things we say.
1. What should we be careful of as far as our actions are concerned?
a. Luke 23:51
b. Acts 5:38-39
2. According to 1 Samuel 2:3, by whom are our actions weighed?